Well- Same Sex Couples

I really like the new perspective on gay partnership and even gay marriage this article raised. From my personal experience, same sex partnership has blessings of its own comparing with the traditional heterosexual marriage. But as the author of this article is more likely to be straight, some of his views are a little bit outsiderly oversimplified. However egalitarian is the obvious strength in the same sex relationship, it is not always a blessing in a relationship. As no one looks for another self other than a partner sharing interest and values, the yinyan balance in relationship is one key to make it functional well, which has been proved to be very much the case in all relationship- both gay and straight. As we all notice that gay couples each have their own role differences, and how to balance the relationship in sharing responsibility and authority are always the daily challenges gay couples facing.

But I can’t agree more on another point the article made on solving the conflicts in relationship. Instead of dodging with tactics gays are obviously more committed in solving the conflict by communication, which is a better attitude toward the relationship. Between the two, the homosexual couples are the mature ones that are more willing to and committed in communication. That might because that they learned how fragile the thing called relationship really is, form the fellow couple’s nonlasting romances. Nowadays people are looking for partners to complete themselves. The share interests and values are just the starting point of the relationship, and the really challenges are the spiritual and emotional compatibility between the two after establishing the connection. As the idea what we want in the relationship develops/changes, no one has all the qualities the other person needs. If one fails to grow with his partner, chances are that he might be left behind. Because of all those, the commitment and efforts of those regular gay couple together for years made are always touching.

The 21 years couple, Stuart Gafney and John Lewis (right) , celebrate on the steps of the State Supreme Court moments after the court's decision legalizing marriage between same-sex couples, in which they were plantiffs.